Love For Kate

by Katie on October 20, 2011 · 27 comments

Today’s mission hits very close to home for me. One day, I’ll share my story of depression/suicide with you, but today, it’s about Kate.

If I tried to tell about Kate’s rough time right now, I’m sure I wouldn’t do it justice. Our faithful team member Kaleigh nominated Kate, and had this to say:

“One of my best friends has really hit rock bottom as of late. Kate’s a senior at West Chester University and she’s juggling working, a heavy courseload, and depression and panic attacks/anxiety. She’s always had low self-esteem after she dated a boy in high school who really treated her badly and had major anger management issues. She only has a few people in her life she can talk to about her depression and suicidal thoughts–me, our other friend, and her older sister. The problem is she sees all three of us as so much better, almost perfect compared to her.

Lately she’s really just wanting to end her life and she tells my friend that constantly. She was going to have inpatient treatment but was too afraid of what people would think of her, so she’s on outpatient treatment and can’t get the prescriptions she needs to handle her panic attacks. Her own mom’s been completely unsupportive and can’t do anything but yell at her.

What really breaks my heart is how far away from her I am–almost 300 miles–and how little I can do. She really needs a reminder that it’s worth getting better, that her life is worth it, that there is a light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Right now, she can’t see it at all.”

Not many people understand depression and suicide. Heck, I sometimes don’t understand it and I’ve lived through it. Some days are harder than others.  What I will say is that I still suffer some days. There are days when I am so down, so upset, but I get an e-mail from one of you guys and it brightens my day more than I can ever express. For that, I thank you. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

Kate is struggling through her days. I just want to reach out and hug her and tell her everything will be okay – that the pain now is worth it in the end – to not give up. But I can’t do it alone.

This is one of the biggest Love Bomb’s that we’ve done so far. And I’m counting on our team to make it happen.

What’s the plan? 

To send as much love to Kate in as many ways as possible. Blogs. Videos. Letters. Greeting Cards. Messages. Spreading the word.

I know there are tons of us out there. Bloggers, non-bloggers, Corporate Managers, freelance writers, unemployed hopefuls, retired achievers. We all have one thing in common: The power to save a life.

Here are some ways that you can help send some much-needed love to Kate:

What you can do:

For our regular, weekly members who like it simple:

1) Leave a message on this form and they will be compiled and mailed to Kate.

I’ll be writing each message on a card and sending it out to Kate directly. I’m locking myself in my house this weekend and spending it all writing your messages.

(If anyone is local to me in Philadelphia and wants to come over for a write-a-message party, I’ll supply the wine!)

2) For our bloggers out there: Write a blog post dedicated to Kate.

Write a post for Kate. Write a letter to her. Share your experience with going through a tough time. Let her know she’s not alone. Get creative. There are no rules. Just that you write to Kate.

Important: Make sure you add  something like: “This post is part of a Love Bomb Mission to send love to Kate, who is suffering from depression. Remind Kate that she is loved and join the mission:
Super Important! After you publish your post, click here to add your blog post to the master list of posts written to Kate!


3) YouTubers? Video Bloggers? Do a Video Blog with a message to Kate!

Upload it to Youtube, and tag it as #LoveForKate. You can also add that Video to the master list here.

4) Handwrite a letter/card to Kate:

and send it to me at my home address, and I’ll re-forward it to Kate. (shoot me an e-mail @ kmcolihan AT gmail DOT com if you need/want my address for this).

5) Tweet about this with the hashtag #loveforkate

(Sample Tweet: “I’m standing up against depression and sending #loveforkate today. You can too!”)

6) Tell your friends on Facebook. Link to this blog post or your blog post, or the form. Whatever!


KATE IS ONE OF US.  Kate is a daughter, a friend, a blogger, the girl you see in Starbucks each morning grabbing her latte. And yet, you have no idea what’s going on in her life. This is a chance to let her know that there are people out HERE who care. Who know how she’s feeling. Who believe in her.  And are here to help.

We’ve come together for things like this before, guys. Let’s do it again!

PS: I’ll be fronting the money for all stationary and postage for this Love Bomb. If you want to donate to the cause, I’d appreciate it, but totally not necessary!


Here are some pretty badges that you can put on your blog to spread the word.  Link ‘em back to this post, okay? Okay! (note: I’m no graphic artist. Haha.)



And last, but certainly not least, here’s a master list of all of the blogs who have contributed to the Love For Katie Mission. You can also click the “enter here” button to add your post/video blog. Woo!

{ 17 comments… read them below or add one }

Jenny Miller October 20, 2011 at 7:19 am

Kate, giving you a big hug! I wish evryone who had feelings of being alone could understand, we are never alone. It may feel like that, but there is always someone to turn to, who will inderstand. Don’t give up. It will get better. And realize however you feel, you are beautiful and loved for who you are. Sending you lots of love.


Jennifer October 20, 2011 at 5:29 pm

So sorry to hear you are struggling……..please know that there are many people out there who are thinking of you and wishing you peace, happiness, and a more rewarding quality of life!!! Things will pick up for you….:-)

Much Love and Peace,
Jenn :-)


April October 20, 2011 at 7:03 pm

Hi Kate,
Sending you gentle, healing hugs from south Alabama. You are firmly in God’s warm grip.




J. October 20, 2011 at 8:41 pm


Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and energy. Hang in there and focus on all your blessings. I know it may be really hard right now, but try to remember it’s always darkest before the dawn.

Wishing you peace.



Marti October 21, 2011 at 1:46 am


Your name means Pure. Anything that is pure is whole and untainted. You are precious, treasured and beloved by your family, friends and God. You were created and destined for greatness. I pray that you can receive this outpouring of love from them and strangers like me as a lifeline back to your true self, back to high ground, back to center. Don’t believe the lies in your head they aren’t what’s real. The reality is found in this love bomb of massive proportions. I pray for peace of mind, heart, spirit and soul.

-Marti in Ohio


kristen October 21, 2011 at 4:52 am

Believe me when I tell you that things truly will get better. As I look back on my years, I spent way too much time wondering when things would get better, and guess what… now I can’t remember what I wanted to change! Time passes very quickly. Things that were immensely important yesterday pale in comparison to the beauty of today. Please cut yourself some slack and remember that everyone has wonderful things to contribute to the world, including you! You obviously have a great friend who wants to see you happy. You are a very lucky – and loved – young woman!


Angie October 21, 2011 at 4:28 pm

Growing up, I was taught not to believe in depression, anxiety, etc. and when I was just 13, I met a beautiful girl named Jen who is now my wife. She had and still has BiPolar depression, anxiety and social anxiety. And I do believe. This year I started being treated for OCD, depression and anxiety. It’s real. It happens. And it sucks. But we can overcome this, we can do this thing called life and we can ROCK IT and make our own path in the world. To everyone who has depression – we. can. handle. it. and we can make our lives the best they can be, with support, love, care and understanding.


Bev October 21, 2011 at 7:54 pm

Dear Kate,

I understand and know how you feel, I have been there even today. But then I think about those who whose lives i would impact in some way, both negatively and then positively. Those that love you, even though they may not always exspress, it would leave them saddened. I am sure that although you may not understand it today there is a purpose for you being in this world. Maybe in fact its getting through this difficult time so that you may help someone else through it in their time of need. Much love and hold strong! You are loved, you are significant, and you matter in this world :)


Jennifer October 22, 2011 at 7:27 am

Kate, it gets better. To every storm there is a rainbow and yours will come. Don’t give up. Ever.


tina October 23, 2011 at 5:56 pm

Hi Kate

just wanted to let you know you are amazing and that you are loved smile and huggles


caroline m October 25, 2011 at 5:19 pm

hi keep cool, people love you, you have a purpose and plan here< God has chosen you for and only you can do, he holds you in his arms, dont let the devil distract you, chuck out wrong thoughts, let his love enfold you, rootin for you!! xxx


Lisa October 26, 2011 at 9:37 am

hi kate,

I just want you to know i am thinking of you and you are not alone, EVER…… i know you are feeling like crap, i have felt that way too, many times, but thankfully i have always manage to emerge from that dark place at some point, and eventually experience the joy again of breathing in another day…… this is what my hope for you is too. just try to have faith, that all the wonderful love and positive thoughts that are being sent your way, will help you too, to very soon experience that simple joy of breathing in a new and purpose filled day. i love you with everything in my heart and am sending you feelings of peace, contentment and serenity. lots of love, a sister from across the seas, Lisa (Perth, Western Australia) xo


Kate October 26, 2011 at 10:29 am

My gorgeous, beautiful Kate,
It was only a little earlier tonight that I was talking to my family about my “dark moment”. Then I clicked Facebook and found the link to your Love Bomb. Not only do we share a name, but we share a story and obviously we share the fact that there are people in our lives that will do whatever they can to keep us here.
I, too, have suffered major panic attacks, social phobia and a less-than-healthy, destructive relationship as I faced my major exams finishing school and yes, I got to very serious suicidal thoughts. It’s now almost 11 years to the day since I got my miracle. Still, to this day, I don’t know how it happened, but I am forever grateful that it did.
It took longer than expected to come, and at the time I didn’t think it was ever possible, but little things kept me going until that moment.
Please Kate, I’m begging you hold on. Hold tight. I know how hard it can be and I know sometimes it seems impossible, but please hold tight to that little bit of you thats still hopeful and still says a miracle is possible. BECAUSE IT IS! Please, please, please hold on. You are in the midst of a miracle. You may not see it yet, but you will.

You can do this girl! You can get through this! I’m proof that it’s possible, it can all turn around. Miracles are not only possible, but likely. I’m sending you the most amazing amount of love and strength. You are a beautiful blessing to this world.

Lots of love and hugs,
A fellow Kate xo


Natanya October 27, 2011 at 4:46 am

Hi Kate,

Two things that have helped me, I hope they will help you feel as loved as you truly are:

1) The song “Just Wait” by Blues Traveler.

2) This poem by Hafiz:
“Know the true nature of your Beloved.
In Her loving eyes your every thought, word
and movement is always – always beautiful.”

Kate, you are a loved and worthy child of this Universe, and you are not alone.


Jodi Degerman October 28, 2011 at 8:15 pm

Hi Kate,
You have no idea who I am. I am a Di Phi E Alumni from Stevens Point. And I have been battling my own clinical depression a lot lately myself. And you know what it totally and utterly sucks. Me and my husband are getting a divorce. So much for love at first sight, and now the fight for the kids begins. On top of it I have MS and my disease is in a roller coaster phase since all of the stress. I know how you feel to be alone. It is easier to feel like that. But stop, look around I am sure there are a lot of people who love you and want to help. You must be a very special person for someone to make this love bomb for you. Try to find some sunshine in everyday, I know it is easier said then done, but try. If you need to talk my ears are open. Email is always good too. Sometimes a strangers shoulder is easier then someone you love.


Kelly November 1, 2011 at 8:03 am

I am sending a Massive Love Bomb for Kate. I am sorry that you are feeling such darkness and anguish in your soul. Sometimes it is so hard to get to a place inside where you can feel the calm, the knowingness that is your true nature. We come to this planet with that knowingness inside, but sometimes we get so disconnected from it. I have been in times in my life in such utter despair, and as I look back, I realize that it was all for a reason. Yes, Kate ~ the feelings that you are having is your soul calling to you so that you can become the butterfly that are. Remember that a caterpillar must struggle in the chyrsalis before emerging as the beautiful, colorful butterfly. Connect to your dreams, Kate. Connect to your idea of happiness which is your birthright. You are not alone, and as I meditate tonight I will light a candle for you and pray that you can feel the light and beauty of the magical essence that is
Y-O-U! Feel free to contact me anytime, as I am in holistic health & energy healing. I would be happy to give you free sessions on the phone. My heart from one corner of the world, to where ever you are, Kate. xo


Stefanie November 5, 2011 at 6:00 pm

Sending soft and gentle ((((hugs)))) for Kate – some days what keeps me going is being able to see the beauty in nature and breathe in an amazing sunset – sometimes its the only thing that will work.
You are beautiful Kate – a truly wonderful creation of nature – take a moment and B R E A T H E in our L O V E for Y O U xx


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